I used to work in a global charity that organised many overseas visits for child sponsors to visit their kids in developing countries, where there are many children begging on the streets. They'd knock on our car doors while we were stuck in traffic in Phnom Penh, and try to sell souvenirs, newspapers, water... Our stance has always been to not buy or give cash, because there are syndicates running these 'businesses' and they profit from these kids. So to give them money is to encourage these syndicates to continue leeching off these children. An alternative would be to donate to a legit charity working in that region/ area, that can work to solve these economic and social issues long-term. Of course, that'd take time, but it's worth the investment.
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@tammiecharitytan Thanks for sharing. I think I understand what you mean -- it can be hard to decide how 'firm' to be so that we don't end up encouraging the friend to dwell on negative thoughts. For me, I also struggle with that, but I remind myself not to lecture, cause I think depressed people have been lectured enough by many others in their lives/ by themselves. Maybe can try helping her to focus more on her strengths and what she's doing/ used to do well? So she doesn't just see gloomy dark clouds..