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Frequent suicidal thoughts...?
lynnchan last edited by
Is it normal to get suicidal thoughts from time to time? Is it possible to have these thoughts, but not be suicidal?
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@ms-chellelai Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience with us. It must have been a distressing time for you to have gone through so much and to come so close to suicide. The fact that you're still here today is testament to your strength, and for that we just want to say we're proud of you and we're glad you're still with us
That's such an interesting point you brought up on how suicidal thoughts were expressed by "neurotypicals" and the possibility of them taking the option of euthanasia should it be legalised. It kinda makes one worry - how a person can reach that point so quickly and whether it was a genuine need masked by humour or flippant statements. It just goes to show that suicide is a real urgent issue that occurs under stressful situations without the factor of mental illness.
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Clearly the links between anxiety and suicide are strong enough to be of major concern to clinicians and therapists – as well as anxiety sufferers. If you or someone you know is at risk for anxiety and suicide, there are things that you can do to help reduce the risks of anxiety leading to suicide:
Understand that anxiety is a serious problem, even if it is not as severe as a phobia or panic attack disorder. Even if you’re just struggling with everyday feelings of generalized anxiety and nervousness, your risk for committing or attempting suicide could go up. Seek help immediately whenever you feel that you’re being overtaken by anxiety in your life.
Seek help whenever you have suicidal thoughts or intentions. If you find your mind drifting to thoughts of suicide, particularly if you already feel anxious, seek help immediately. Cognitive behavioral therapy and medication can straighten out the problem before it becomes out of control.
Understand your own anxiety. Learn to understand how your mind and your anxiety work, so that you can combat them on a daily basis. Learn relaxation techniques to keep your general anxiety levels lowered, and seek further help at a pharmacy or from a doctor in the form of therapy if relaxation techniques aren’t enough.
On the social level, it’s time that we take anxiety and suicide seriously. If you know someone who struggles with constant or overwhelming anxiety, talk to that person about what you might be able to do to help. You might be surprised at how much just having someone take them seriously can help a person with an anxiety disorder, as these disorders are often overlooked or brushed off by observers!
@ms-chellelai thank you for sharing your experience and views on this. It really opened my understanding of suicidal thoughts and the complexity of it. It's not all that black and white. I see now that having thoughts of suicide doesn't automatically mean one is suicidal. There is a difference - and knowing that difference helps a person to decide whether or not to seek professional help. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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@lynnchan I think for people who have mental illness, thinking about suicide thoughts is frequently occuring. But not everyone may be suicidal despite having those thoughts. I think it's all up to you if one may act on one's thoughts. All I know is I too have experienced suicidal thoughts being manic depressive and all. But because of my faith and relationship with Jesus, I often overcome those thoughts. You should try learning more about Jesus too and build a relationship with Him. Trust me, it works. And also pray, read the bible, or listen to preaches about the bible. Good luck and God bless.
thetapestryproject.sg last edited by
It's not really our place to say if it's "normal" to have suicidal thoughts, but it is clear that for someone to consider that option means that things are getting dire and external help is needed. We recommend you consider talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking counselling, reading self-help books, journalling, exercising, and making lifestyle changes. The important thing is to be safe and you don't have to go at things alone
Hello, thank you for your question. I think it is a question that people would wonder about, especially when they face setbacks in life and feel that the road ahead is hopeless.
I can’t answer your question professionally or medically, but I can only offer you what I think based on my lived experience.
Throughout my 10 years living with a mental health condition, the thought of suicide did not cross my mind. Even though life was hard with an illness, I felt that I wanted to overcome the challenges with my sheer willpower. In contrast, my friends who are neurotypical or without any diagnosed mental health challenges would tell me stuffs like they find life ‘meaningless’, they often googled how to end their lives painlessly when they no longer feel like they want to study and some even commented that they hope they would die young because they fear aging and becoming useless. Some of them told me that they hope that medical science would allow people to take an injection if they feel like they have had enough, or if they do not want to die in old age (they want to die pretty).
However, since 2016, the trauma of my relapse that year was so huge that I contemplated suicide. I wondered how people would react if I was gone and thought about which part of the building to jump down. However, I never self-harmed and I called Samaritans Of Singapore (SOS – suicide helpline) immediately. For the past 3 years, suicidal thoughts would creep up when I was facing a setback and when I felt hopeless. I had suicidal thoughts, but I was not suicidal. I never self-harmed. Similarly, my friends who lamented about not wanting to age or having the choice to die were never suicidal. They never harmed themselves even though they had suicidal thoughts.
I just felt that it might be quite usual (trying not to generalise here) for people to think about their existence and about the topic of death, especially when they are facing challenges or a turning point in life. I feel that you don’t have to worry about so much about suicidal thoughts, unless you are self-harming or if the thoughts are so excessive that they affect your functioning in life. Perhaps a thought about life and death can spur you onto your next life path if you realise that deep down, you want to survive and live on. Hope this helps and all the best!